SINGLENESS | GIVING IT UP.

I'm going to skip all of the clever introductions and segues and just get straight to the point (a rarity around here, eh?): I need to give up singleness. 

That makes a lot of sense, right? 

Let's break it down a little, shall we? When I say that I need to give up singleness, I mean that I need to stop using it as my crutch, stop using it as the one place in my life where things aren't yet fixed, aren't yet worthy or finished.

I need to stop seeing singleness as a problem or illness. Stop seeing it as a place where I can throw myself pity parties. A place where I can constantly moan and grown and dig myself into a deeper hole.

While it's fine and dandy to be honest (a trait I not only admire but intentionally look for in my friendships these days), it's also important to be honest with yourself and your relationship with God--and that's where I felt the calling to give up singleness as how I was viewing and living it out.

Singleness does not mean being alone. It's not about waiting for life to start, or looking for the greener grass in life. Like other so-called waiting seasons in life, we need to stop waiting for something to happen. We need to cherish today, give up our idols (marriage included!), and cling to Him.

And singleness cannot be my pity party. I am wayyy too blessed to let my life be a pity party because of one dream that hasn't played out. I cannot let that control me and I cannot let the devil control me that way. I need to let it go, give it to Jesus, and just live.

I need to live out my days, not count them down until the day my prince charming comes.

Because He's already here, living right inside my heart.